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Goodbye to a friend

I promise to write ALL about our harrowing wedding day, but not this minute.

Right now, I’d like to give a moment to my dear friend Brian Goins who died today of cancer (related to HIV). He’s not the first friend I’ve lost to HIV, but he’s the most dear. I knew this was coming so I was ready for it and I’m glad it’s over to tell the truth. Brian was a vibrant, sexy, fun and caring friend and I’ll miss him.


I’ve not seen Brian in quite some time, but we’ve stayed in touch with the phone, chat and email. The last time we spoke, we talked about how he wanted his death handled and we pretty much said our goodbyes. It was about 4 months ago. The doctors had just told him that they could do nothing more for him and we both knew it was only a matter of time. Brian was worse at goodbye than I am, so we never said it. I know that’s the way he wanted it. I also know that he didn’t want to burden any of us friends with his dying — which is why he simply stopped talking to us. It’s his way and I’m good with that.

I’ll be heading to Knoxville next week for his [horrible, Southern, look-at-the-body-and-gasp] service and then he’ll be cremated. At least his bitch of a mother agreed to that. I know for a fact that he did not want a service, much less a VIEWING fer chrissakes, but he gave in to his mother at the end to please her. I don’t know what is wrong with that woman, but I hope she reaps lots of bad karma for overriding her ONLY son’s wishes. I’m sure she’ll get what she deserves.

Although Brian and I didn’t spend much time together in the last few years (he lived in New York), I will miss him. He is an old soul, however, so I’m quite certain we’ll meet again. I look forward to it.

Hey, Bri, meet me at the closest bar next time around, ok? I love ya, sweetie darling. Don’t forget the champagne and nibblies!

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THANK YOU!

To everyone who came to the housewarming/reception last night, we offer sincere thanks! We had an absolute BLAST and we hope everyone else did, too!

So, from my recollection these are some of the high points:
– Beer
– Jello shots
– Tons of food – and everyone loved my recipes! Yay!
– More beer (um, there are 2 bags full of bottles, yo!)
– Mickey’s nipples (heh heh heh)
– More Jello shots
– Bexxx and Cody snogging (!!)
– Red Velvet Cake shots
– A couple of people hurling (luckily, only one was inside)
– More Red Velvet Cake shots
– So much WUV that it was making me giggly!
– Sadly, there was no breaking in of our bathroom by anyone so far as we know. Next party: I insist that someone have sex in our bathroom!! If we can have sex in Bobbi and Cheryl’s froggie bathroom for their housewarming, then we expect you pervs to honour us in a similar fashion!! LOL

We were so blissed out and deliriously happy that so many of our friends made and effort to come to our home and make our first party a roaring success!

We love you all VERY much and we look forward to many more cookouts and debauchery this summer!

Anyone that has never come to our parties should maybe TRY ONE before ya decide that they are too nekkid or too weird or too boring. You just might be surprised.

And, for the record, the pervy parties are NOT public affairs in the first place. So RELAX, you will not be stripped and flogged at the front door. Unless you want it, of course!

LOL

Thanks to all who attended and now I’m outta here. I’m tired and kinda peckish.

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From Daily Zen.com

If you want to be free,
Get to know your real self.
It has no form, no appearance,
No root, no basis, no abode,
But is lively and buoyant.
It responds with versatile facility,
But its function cannot be located.
Therefore when you look for it,
You become further from it;
When you seek it
You turn away from it all the more.

– Linji (d. 867)

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OMFG

I’m about to bust a vessel, I just know it!

With the party less than a week away, I still have a veritable shit ton of projects to finish. Crescent Moon has become a vortex into which many of my hours have fallen in the last week or so and it’s putting me behind with other things. I am very excited and freaked out about the new store and I’m also very happy to be a part of it, but I have so much on my plate that I think I’m gonna freak out before it’s all said and done.

There is a horrible list of stuff to do for the damned wedding (see below). I just KNEW I’d be the one who must get it all together and SURPRISE!!, I am. Nick gave up on attempting to plan anything and so now I must do every little thing. What’s done? Um, I think the answer is nada. I mean, I’ve at least got the reception covered, since it’s the housewarming party, but dammit, nothing is done for the nuptials themselves. Lessee, here’s my current list of things that need to happen:
1. choose a dress and all the accessories
2. what about a cake??
3. what about rings??
4. um, I’ll need flowers, too, I think…
5. I think we’ll need something to say. Yah, I’m pretty sure VOWS need to be written, otherwise we’ll just stand there…
6. what about lighting?
7. What about music?
8. buy the food stuff (HUGE thanks to Rebecca and Beth for their help here)
9. buy the champagne
10. do my nails (hands and feet)
11. get the blood test (heh heh, NOT anymore!! Yay!)
12. get the license
13. find out if Caroline is legal in GA (if NOT, then I have to call Claire and get her friend to do the ceremony)
14. have a nervous breakdown (I’m pretty sure this is in progress…Does crying randomly and wanting to kill everyone with my bare hands count???)

Uh, yah, I think that about covers it. ::insert SOB here::

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Hear ye, hear ye!

Heh, we’ve decided to go ahead and tie the knot on Thursday, April 1st, which is April Fools’ Day for those of you who observe the important holidays.

Since it *is* short notice, we’ve decided to do it here at our home with Caroline officiating and Jody as our Elvis – complete with karaoke Elvis music! We were gonna wait until next April, but with the house and the other snags we’ve run into by NOT being legally married, we decided to do it now and get it over with. Heh, I know that’s not very romantic, but hey, I’m nothing if not practical! :-) Next year, we will be in Vegas, getting married properly at an Elvis chapel! LOL

So, with April 1st the week after our housewarming, we’ll just have the reception first, THEN the wedding on Thursday! It’s so US to do things backasswards!!

If you’d like to attend the wedding, please shoot me an email. It’s during the week, so I don’t really expect everyone to drop everything and run to Decatur, but you can attend if you wish. We’ll probably have the ceremony around 6 or 6:30pm to accomodate those who want to come after work.

I’ll need RSVPs, please, so we can plan nibblies. There’ll be WAY too much champagne no matter how many show up!

2004 is quite a year so far!