Death of Elvis

August 16, 1977.

I was 11. I was watching TV or perhaps it was just on as always in my parents’ house. I was in the Red Room, which was one half of the converted 2 car garage of our rancher on Slade Drive in Knoxville, TN. The Red Room was Mediterranean style with low, wide red velvet couches and large square heavy lamps. The carpet was short red shag and the walls were paneled in white/black/grey paneling. There was a fireplace along the whole end of the room in the same white brick used for the whole house. The TV was one of those old large consoles.

The other half of this converted garage (and by converted, I don’t mean it looked like a garage, not at all, my dad was a builder, so it was completely finished) was my mother’s beauty shop. She did hair from the early 70s until the mid 70s. I remember the bouffants and the cases of lacquer hairspray. I remember the chair being coated in hairspray. She had a full counter unit with the sink and all that, the hydraulic chair (which brought my brother and me much fun when we were small) and two salon hairdryers. For those of you too young for such things, they were like this one, but lavender:

It was the afternoon, so I must’ve caught the very first reports. His death was announced at 3:30pm, so that’s when the news coverage must’ve been heaviest. Anyway, I saw the crawl across the bottom of the TV screen: “Elvis Presley dead at 42”. [I just looked that up and was slightly startled to find that he was only 42! He seemed older to me at 11, I suppose.] My mother was futzing in the shop, so I trotted in there and told her that Elvis was dead and she should come look.

She thought I didn’t know what I was talking about (natch) but came into the other room. I remember her staring at the TV in horror. She cried a little. I can’t remember anything beyond that, but I remember she was horrified.

Elvis was THE celebrity to girls in that narrow sliver between pre WWII and the Baby Boomers. These women were born between 1940 and 1945 and I’ve never met one who gives a shit about the Beatles. It was all about Elvis for them. My mother told me that she and her friends would go to the movie theatre and watch Love Me Tender over and over and cry their eyes out at the ending when Elvis’ character dies.

I think to them, Elvis’ death was probably similar to how the Kennedy assassination of the 60s was to their parents and John Lennon’s death to the Boomers. Or 9/11 is to our generation.

In an odd way, I’m glad I got to experience that with my mother. We have very few times when we connect and this was one.

And a note from me: I think Elvis was a pretty pretty boy and he could sing like nobody else. I was raised on Elvis records and remember that All Shook Up was me and my brother’s favourite 45 to play. We also loved Last Date by Floyd Cramer. :-)

Having a Selfish Parent

I’ve bitched about my mother before and I will again, no doubt, but she never ceases to amaze me with her myopic, self centered, hateful and overall childish attitudes.

She called me yesterday to inform me that my father is finally getting his teeth fixed (they fell out due to his bone disease). Then she proceeds to start belittling him for using sedation to have ALL his teeth removed! When I point out that having multiple extractions is a big deal and most people are sedated, she starts in, “I don’t know what’s wrong with you pussies! I never had sedation! You are all wimps!” Now, keep in mind that she’s never actually had multiple extractions, which in my mind, negates any and all observations that she has on the subject.

Then she starts in on me and my brother, who both detest the dentist due to the simple fact that our parents took us to an Army dentist who didn’t believe in novacaine for such silly things as fillings. Yes, he drilled on young kids (I was 6 or 8, my bro 2 yrs younger) with nothing for pain. I brought this up and pointed out that our dental anxiety was probably due to our parents taking us to this dentist and by the way, what the hell were you thinking?? She immediately hops on her favourite soapbox and defense for all stupid decisions she’s ever made:

Well, I didn’t have any of that crap! If it’s good enough for me, it’s good enough for you!

What that really means is this: My mother treated me like chattel and worshiped my brother. She ignored me and I’ve never gotten over it. I didn’t want kids in the first place, so what better way to get back at everyone than by treating my kids just as shitty as I was treated?

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Heaven on the 7th Floor

I have a myspace account. I detest myspace. But many people think it’s just great and therefore I have an account. This chick I used to know growing up found my myspace and sent me this meme about getting reacquainted and I actually filled it out. Yah, I was bored! LOL

Anyway, one of the questions to me was “What is your fondest memory of me [the girl that sent this]?” A memory as clear as day popped into my head. To her I said “when you sang Heaven on the 7th Floor at Toni’s house”.

Here is the story fleshed out.

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Birfday ’06

Yay! What a great party!

Thanks to everyone who joined us and thanks for all the wonderful phone calls/emails, too!

I had a great time and everyone else seemed to enjoy themselves as well.

And a BIG thank you to everyone who brought me shwag! Yay for birfday shwag!!

More later, gotta get ready to meet Mickey at the Vortex!

Hold the Gun, Ma!

Because I’m about to become psychotic.

I know this is an 8 year, but FUCK. This is not even funny. Here’s the list of what’s happened this year (not necessarily bad things, just CHANGE) and why I may freak out at any moment:

– wrecked the car
– some friends have been in a legal battle that’s ruined their lives
– lost half the con due to being overserved
– Andy got married
– Dean adopted a Chinese baby
– broke up with a friend
– Dave died last week
– Caroline’s preggers (found out yesterday)
– iBook display died last night
– Pumpkin died last night
and the frosting: a few minutes ago, my 40+ year old horse had to be put down.

Any questions?

I think it’s safe to say that I’ll be RIPPED at my birthday party, so expect it. Nick, hon, you’ll have to be Julie the Cruise Director once again. I’ll just apologize now for the jackassery. :-/