Demand Fair Treatment

Hello Monday. After a tumultuous week last week, I hope this week is calm and nothing stressful happens.

Between business bullshit and the anniversary of Missy’s death, last week was a lot of suck.

This week, I feel more positive about our business prospects (got some good news Saturday!) and more positive that sticking to our guns is the best way to keep our business integrity. There is no reason in this world to let shifty cons or shifty people use us to further their own agendas. We work, we get paid. It’s that simple.

We are not teenaged interns. We do not need “publicity”. We do need to get these games paid off and out of the red.

Just because something is a side hustle, does NOT mean that we’re in it to give away our products and lose money.

We ALSO do not put up with being treated badly. We want to work with people who like us, like our work, and appreciate our ethics. Shifty cons and shifty people who are threatened by my open and honest business dealings will not be tolerated. It’s that simple.

I’m too old to be treated badly and used by people or conventions. We’ve had lovely convention experiences, so there really is no excuse for the big con being dicks to the very people that make their con happen.

Momocon is the gold standard. The other con should TRY HARDER to emulate Momo, not the other way ’round.

I am done with worrying about the con. The dude I’m helping out is at the mercy of this convention. I’ve done all I can do. The convention needs to know that he’d not be coming AT ALL, if not for me trying to help. He, too, was aghast at how he was treated by con staff. It really is too bad that this con is run by such mean and nasty people. The only reason it’s still going strong is that people feel the need to genuflect to it and put up with the bullshit.

Protip: DragonCon is not the only con in the world. Go where you’re treated fairly and nicely. THOSE are the cons that should be encouraged, not this one.

I’ll also note that this behemoth is not the only convention we’ve chosen to avoid. There is a small Trek convention that was rude and nasty to us and we will not work with them, either. STANDARDS! Why should I support mean, rude, entitled people??

Maybe we’ll work with the big con next year, maybe not. If they put on their NICE PANTS and stop being jerks, perhaps. If they can’t figure out how to be nice, then they can exploit someone else. I’m too old to be talked to like I’m a stupid intern trying to steal something… (yes, that happened)

We’ll be at the big convention. When it pleases us to be there. I will be onsite Saturday daytime, Sunday afternoon and Monday morning to handle the business I need to handle. Other than that, we’ll see. I’ve got horse racing Sat night, and frankly, that sounds much more pleasant than dealing with the drunken masses at con.

Bot Attacks and Slacker Hosts

First off, let’s be clear: ALL HOSTS ARE SLACKERS. To some extent, anyway. They promise to help you defend your site(s) against hacking and bots, but they never, EVER do. We left Zweeko because their servers couldn’t reboot and our sites would be down for hours at a time – and they would just say “no worries!”. Yeah. We moved to Siteground, which has been a huge improvement, but they offer no more support or ACTUAL help than Zweeko did. But at least with Siteground the sites crash and are rebooted in minutes rather than hours.

If you have old sites with URLs that have been in service for 20 years like ours, you WILL be a target for bots and hackers. If your site performance is never good and your host shrugs their shoulders, it’s probably bot attacks that are slowing things down.

So, we put up with constant outages for about a year. We’d ask for help and Siteground would just offer the same old bullshit answers: Tweak your robots.txt file! Write a special root file that will block bots! Don’t use WordPress! DO use WordPress! Upgrade your account! (That last one is a standard. Better to sell more services than actually FIX a client’s problems!)

They never once recommended a plugin that might help. NEVER. And Siteground actually says in their marketing: “We eat WordPress for breakfast!” I beg to differ.

Anyway, the point is, never expect a host to do anything more than take your money and try to take MORE of your money.

And another thing to never rely on your web host for: your EMAIL. Just don’t. Use Gmail. What we do is set up email addresses with our URLs then forward them to a Gmail account. That way, there is spam filtering and you have far more control of your email. These days, NO ONE looks at your email account – other than to judge you for using AOL, Yahoo or the other old ass crappy ones. Heh. I’ve got many email accounts and I’ve never had anyone even realise it when I accidentally use a different one on a reply. We skipped using host email all together with Player One; its email is playeroneatl at gmail dot com. MUCH simpler. Also, when you change hosts (and you will), your email will still work since it is independent of your URL. Same thing goes for registering your URL. Use a separate registrar (I use namecheap.com) from your host. That way your domain registration doesn’t have to be moved when you change hosts (and you will change hosts). Protips, people! Protips!

We struggled with bot attacks for years, but I think we’ve finally found a plugin that actually helps: StopBadBots. We installed in across all our WP sites and have had only a one or two outages in a month, which is amazing. I also installed Blackhole for Bots, but that one requires some robots.txt file fiddling, so it’s not plug and play like StopBadBots is. I highly recommend StopBadBots.

I also had an issue with email enquiry form spam, so I configured the plugin (Contact Form 7 by Miyoshi) to work with Akismet Anti Spam plugin (standalone from Jetpack), which seems to work quite well.

If you don’t already, go NOW and turn on Askismet for comment spam and Jetpack (Askismet is included in JetPack, but we also use the standalone plugin) for WordPress. Make sure to configure JetPack’s settings to turn ON “Brute force protection” and turn OFF “login with any wordpress account”. Always check your settings for any plugin you use with WP.

Then go get Wordfence. This plugin is very thorough and really helps with bots that try to log into your WP site. You’ll need to get an API key and you’ll need to take some time to configure all the sections, but it is REALLY worth it. The plugin will tell you how to get the API key and they offer lots of documentation. I will advise that you tweak the Rate Limiting Rules pretty tightly. GET WORDFENCE!

Also install Heartbleed Control plugin, to stop the heartbleed exploit, which will run up site hits.

If hosts would actually offer decent WP support, I don’t think WP would be such a pain in the ass. WHY they won’t simply suggest a plugin rather than all the bullshit über complicated rewrite crap is beyond me. But *I* will recommend what is working for us.

As with all things technical, things evolve, so this info is not forever, but for right now, August 2017, these things are working. Hopefully they will continue to work for the foreseeable future! And I hope that they might help others who struggle with site performance issues while running WordPress!

Beef Doenjang Soup

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Beef Doenjang Soup

This is another riff on my basic doenjang soup. It's my favourite! I encourage you to find an Asian market in your area and get some of these specialty items. Korean is hard to find unless you happen to have a Korean market, but Amazon usually has ALL the things. This one uses a spicy radish - pic in recipe and Korean soup base, which is great for just about any soup.
Course Soup
Cuisine Asian, Korean
Keyword asian soup, beef soup, doenjang, korean, korean soup
Prep Time 20 minutes
Cook Time 15 minutes
Servings 10 servings
Author misangela

Ingredients

  • 1 8oz package cremini mushrooms, sliced white mushrooms are ok
  • 3 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1 med shallot, diced
  • 2 inches fresh ginger, peeled and thinly sliced sub 1 Tbl ginger paste
  • 3 scallions, cut longways and into 1.5" pieces
  • olive or neutral oil to cook veg
  • 1 Tbl Doenjang paste sub ssamjang
  • 2 tsp Gochujang paste optional, but adds nice flavor for beef
  • 1 Lime, zest and juice
  • 3 cups beef stock sub chicken stock
  • 1/4 cup Korean soup base or Kikkoman Memmi sub soy sauce
  • 2 Tbl Mirin
  • 1 pack Salted Radish optional; sub 6 sliced radishes
  • 2 tsp sesame oil
  • 8 oz thinly sliced sirloin found in Korean store, or slice yourself
  • scallions cut on bias for garnish

Instructions

  • Put a large stock pot on medium heat with a little oil to cook the veg.
  • Sweat mushrooms, garlic, shallot, ginger and scallions until soft.
  • Add doenjang, gochujang and lime zest and stir until dissolved.
  • Add beef stock, soup base and mirin and bring to simmer.
  • Add salted radish, sesame oil and beef, bring back to simmer for about 5 minutes.
  • Turn off heat and add lime juice.
  • Check seasoning and adjust to your taste.
  • Serve with scallions as garnish.

Notes

As with all soups, feel free to improvise. I rarely make soup the same way twice. It just depends on what's in my fridge at the moment. Leftover rice is always great in these soups. Fish sauce is also a nice addition, as is Chinese cooking wine. 
You may have to add salt, it really depends on your own taste. 
I occasionally add some black pepper to this beef soup. I like black pepper with beef. 

Workout Update!

So, since HeroesCon and all the jackassery from that, I’ve fallen off my workout schedule. This week, I’m back on. OWIE! I’ve changed up what I’m doing a little; here are the deets:

Treadmill 30 min programme, about 1.5mi (that FitBit Alta NEVER gets right)
Jog at 4-4.2mph for 5 mins, about .34 mi (ditto^^)
Leg Extensions, 70#, 3 sets 15 (not hard enough, going to add 5# more)
Need to add leg curls back, 35#, 3 sets 15
Shoulder press, 10# hand weights, 2 sets 15, going up to 3 sets
Need to add rows and triceps back, 3 sets 15 with 8#
Bicep curl, 8# hand weights, 3 sets 15, going back up to 10# soon
Need to add squats back in, 70#, 15 reps
Sit ups, standard legs bent, 50
Sit ups, pedaling, 25
Leg lifts, lifting bent legs for lower abs, 25
12# medicine ball side lifts from sitting/legs bent position for obliques, 25

I’d like to point out that most of this is done with simple hand weights. You don’t need to have a bench to get a good workout with weights. Rather than the extensions, do lunges with 10# in each hand. You’ll feel it, I promise! I try to avoid lunges since I’ve got weak knees. I have to be VERY careful with squats, too, or I’ll blow out my trick knee, which I did a couple of months ago. Get creative! You can do most weight training w/out fancy equipment. I also recommend Kathy Smith videos if you’re just getting started. She is just fair at weight lifting technique, but it’s a good place to start – the Staying Strong one is good for a beginner.





I do this big workout 2x week and I do cardio 3x, but I need to up that to 5x/wk. More challenging cardio (JOGGING! GAH!) will help me lose this last 10-15# I need to lose. As will beefing up (no pun intended) my weights. What I do is divide this workout into 2 and alternate arms/legs. I do the abs and squats every workout. That way I can get it done in 45 mins or so. I get VERY bored and 45 mins is about my limit for boring workouts. :)

Perspective!

Something just occurred to me.

I complain about “only” losing 70#, but that is 28% of my starting body weight. Which is SIGNIFICANT. (250 x .28)

If you started at 300#, the equivalent is 84#. (300 x .28) 90# lost from 300 is 30%, which statistically not much more than my 28% loss.

So for me to reach an equivalent %, I will lose less, if you just look at the number of pounds. 75# will be my 30% mark (175# weight). Which is pretty fucking stellar IMO.

Perspective. It matters. :)