OMG, I was sitting talking to my Weasel about my epiphany about advice vs validation tonite and he said something that was so profound… He said, “You know this is the problem guys have had FOREVER, right?”
Well, now that he mentioned it, I guess so! I’ve been suffering for YEARS with this problem of not being able to tell when a chick wants advice vs when she wants validation.
When the bell rang in my head (BONNNGGG!!!) I had to laugh.
I am such a guy!! OMG, I knew I dealt with shit in a guy like fashion at times, but in this respect I’m a total GUY. This is what happens:
Chick blathers on about some DRAMA that is going on and asks “What should I do??”
I instantly register “OMG, she needs a PLAN!! I can totally do PLANS!!!” And skip over the validation part.
I then proceed to outline the plan I’ve thought up, but then suddenly realise that the chick has mounted her Drama Llama and is galloping off screaming WOOOO HOOO!!, waving her hat and generally ignoring everything I have to say.
Rather than STOP right there and wait for the chick to do a couple of laps on the Drama Llama and perhaps then be able to listen to reason, I plunge forth with my most logical, awesome plan…
THAT is the problem!
You canNOT try to talk to sense to a chick who is riding her Drama Llama. No way, no how. It’s friendship suicide. Yet, this is what I DO! OY!! Why did it take so long for me to realise this??
So, Nick has given me some great GUY advice on how to deal with the Drama Llama and its rider – which I thank him for IMMENSELY!! OMG, this epiphany has totally given us some awesome fodder for the Weasel comic! SQUEEE! It’s gonna be GREAT!!
Keep your eyes on Thinkweasel.com for the story of the MANual and the Drama Llama!!