Raleigh for Benatar signing and show

Raleigh was a great trip – too short! Since I missed Benatar here (and the local book signing, too), we decided to trot up to Raleigh and get her bio signed and see her live. EXCELLENT!

The book is Between a Heart and a Rock Place and it’s really good. The signing was in an independent bookstore (Quail Ridge Books) and it was SO not crowded. I even managed to not fangirl Ms Benatar! Yay me! Illicit phone photo:

Signing “Between a Heart and a Rock Place”

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Family: new perspective

So my Granny finally crossed over and the family was summoned. Everyone behaved and it was good. My Uncle Jack and Aunt Vera did a good job with the arrangements. They are the fixers and doers of the family; they take care of the elderly until they shuffle off this mortal coil. I’ve realised that they are also MUCH nicer to me than my immediate family. They don’t judge me and they are always warm and welcoming to me. Aunt Vera told me to “take anything you want” from my Gran’s home and I really appreciate that.

I got a couple of skillets, some trinkets, an occasional table, some books and the thing that I love the most: her iced tea pitcher. Crazy, I know, but it just resonated with me SO much. I remember that pitcher on the counter with tea bag tags hanging out of the spout when I was a kid. It’s magical! :) I’ve also got on hold an old 70s stereo in a cabinet, a curio cabinet and my Gran’s sewing machine that I watched her sew many a thing on. Continue reading “Family: new perspective”

Gladys Gage 9/29/1920-8/25/2010

My Granny passed yesterday at 3:03pm. She was a month shy of her 90th birthday. Here’s a short outline of her life – I hope I have the places and timeframes right.

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She was born Gladys Irene Littleton (she’d smack me for telling her middle name, but there ya go) in the hills of East Tennessee. The area was called Wheat back then. It’s where Oak Ridge is now. She told me they used to walk across the river as kids – this was before all the dams built in the 30s by TVA. She also told me about the Depression from their point of view. These people were farmers, so the Depression was really the opposite for them: they threw out truckloads of fruit and vegetables because there was no one to buy them or transport them. Granny told me of her memories of that: the trucks backing up to the lake and dumping their produce. So the country folk had surplus while city folk stood in bread lines. Isn’t that odd?

Gladys married a local boy named Dwight Harvey and they moved to Philadelphia TN. She bore two children, my uncle Jack (Jackie Allen, 1940) and my mother (Anita June, 1942). This was during wartime and my grandfather was called up at the very tail end of WWII, in 1944-45, when even men with families were being drafted. He was only gone a few months when he was killed in action in early 1945. My mother never really knew him.

With two children, the widowed Gladys eventually moved to the big city of Knoxville and ran into an old acquaintance, Jesse Gage. I don’t know when they got married, but it was fairly soon after the war ended. He’d been shot in the knee and was sent home. Jesse Gage was my grandmother’s Big Love. They never had children (he was sterile from Mumps, I think) but Jesse raised my mother and her brother as his own. He was my Papaw. He died of cancer in 1979. My grandmother never really got over it.

She sold her house and moved into a basement apartment with my uncle in the 80s and pretty much began her decline. She became less and less active and ended up being a shut in. It’s a shame; I remember my Granny being so very active when we were kids. She’d haul us around town in her beautiful 1961 Galaxie Starliner (white w/ red interior) – which is where I get my severe lust for Galaxies.

Sadly, she declined rather quickly in the last few years. She became unhinged from reality and very uncooperative with my uncle and my mother. They ended up putting her in a home a couple of years ago and that’s where she died. I disagree with this action, but I understand why they did it. Once in the home, she rapidly gave up all pretense of trying to hang on and simply let go. Her mind was gone in a few months and the rest of the time was basically waiting for her body to catch up. It is a sad ending for such a vibrant woman.

My Granny was good to me. She helped significantly with my college expenses and she was there for me when my parents were being crazy. I’m glad I never saw her in that home. My last memory of her was one of our visits. She was sitting on her couch, having a lucid conversation with us. She laughed. It was great. That’s the Granny I remember and I’m grateful for that.

RIP Gladys Irene Littleton Harvey Gage.

If you’d like to see the eulogy that my uncle gave and her NOTICE, please see her page.

The rest of the weekend

There were other happenings over the weekend besides the mad kitchen refurb. Sunday was a busy day, actually, with much hobnobbing around Decatur.

Caroline & Co. came down from the North 40 to try out the New Orleans Snoball Cafe [RIP] that just opened up in Decatur. It’s the first time we’ve met Miss SarahJane in person if you can believe that! It was really great to hang out with the Holkos and to see Julian (aka Cougar Bait!). We had a great time and the snoballs were DEELISH! They are NOT snocones. Nope, not at all. You really must get over there and visit Miss Victoria the owner. She’s awesome. Oh, it’s cash only for now, so take yer folding money. Also, she serves REAL muffulettas with authentic Central Grocery olive salad. It’s the ONLY place in Atlanta to get this, folks, so if you want real olive salad to take home, bring $20. We paid it happily.

Also on Sunday, we met up with a fellow comic artist at Thinking Man and Nick talked shop with him for a bit. We attended the first part of the steampunk folks’ meeting, but we were anxious to get back home and work on the wiring. We were thwarted somewhat by Kate who came by to get her mail and then drug us out to Marlow’s Tavern (in the Doubletree @ Northlake) for a late dinner. The fried asparagus there is to die for. And the grit cakes are pretty damn yummy, too.

We were expecting the contractors bright and early Monday morning (8:30 was the appt time) so we drug ourselves out of bed and got ready. And waited. And waited. I finally got ahold of Cathy and she *thought* she’d left me a VM about an emergency call – but she must’ve left someone else TWO VMs because she didn’t call me. In any case, we were rescheduled for “after 1pm” so we just got started on kitchen wiring at 9am instead. I went out, ran errands and got us Chick-Fil-A for lunch. They got here around 3pm, right as Nick finished up the kitchen wiring, so it all worked out perfectly. Yay!

Despite my wanting to cook, we were just too frelling wiped out to do anything more than order Chinese last night. I did boil 2 qts of water in under 10 minutes. YES WE WATCHED WATER BOIL. Don’t judge!! :-P

Also, cutting me a wee bit of slack, Aunt Flo didn’t descend upon me until middle of the day yesterday so I could function, although I did have insomnia for a few hours last night, which I’m sure I’ll have to nap to pay for later today. I think that’s all the highlights. Now, I must get out of here and get some food to cook on my stove. SQUEE! :)

Tale of the Jenn-Air

Wednesday I had lunch with Sonya at Los Hermanos on Hugh Howell. After lunch, I proposed we go root around the Sears Outlet which is around the corner. Off the cuff, just for something to do. I always dream of finding the perfect stove there…

I stroll over to the stoves and what to my wondering eyes does appear but a screaming hot deal on a Jenn-Air downdraft stove w/ convection oven. It wasn’t $1100-1300, NO it was $923. The skies opened up and the angels sang: AAAAAHHHHHHH! I sent Nick a pic and we bought the $2640 stove for $923. BAM.

The lovely Jenn-Air.
My lovely new Jenn-Air!

This may seem like an extravagant thing to do, but it’s actually something I’ve bitched about since we moved in: the shitty stove. We’ve put off getting a downdraft because they are rarely below $1200 at the outlet store. Also, we are trying to do as many upgrades as we can to this place so we can unload it and get the hell out of here “one of these days”. ::sigh:: In any case, it will make me VERY happy for the time we are trapped here and that alone is worth admission (Nick agrees wholeheartedly LOL). Continue reading “Tale of the Jenn-Air”