Page for Granny finished

I’ve transcribed the eulogy my uncle gave and scanned that and Granny’s NOTICE. Both are on the page dedicated to her here.

My tribute is here.

Thanks to my uncle for allowing me to publish his notes and eulogy.

We also have a video that we shot of a conversation with my Granny in ’07. I’ll have Nick post it on YouTube or something if it’s not too long. If any family members want a copy, we’d be happy to burn it for you. Just email me about it. (Email addy on my About page.)

Family: new perspective

So my Granny finally crossed over and the family was summoned. Everyone behaved and it was good. My Uncle Jack and Aunt Vera did a good job with the arrangements. They are the fixers and doers of the family; they take care of the elderly until they shuffle off this mortal coil. I’ve realised that they are also MUCH nicer to me than my immediate family. They don’t judge me and they are always warm and welcoming to me. Aunt Vera told me to “take anything you want” from my Gran’s home and I really appreciate that.

I got a couple of skillets, some trinkets, an occasional table, some books and the thing that I love the most: her iced tea pitcher. Crazy, I know, but it just resonated with me SO much. I remember that pitcher on the counter with tea bag tags hanging out of the spout when I was a kid. It’s magical! :) I’ve also got on hold an old 70s stereo in a cabinet, a curio cabinet and my Gran’s sewing machine that I watched her sew many a thing on. Continue reading “Family: new perspective”

Gladys Gage 9/29/1920-8/25/2010

My Granny passed yesterday at 3:03pm. She was a month shy of her 90th birthday. Here’s a short outline of her life – I hope I have the places and timeframes right.

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She was born Gladys Irene Littleton (she’d smack me for telling her middle name, but there ya go) in the hills of East Tennessee. The area was called Wheat back then. It’s where Oak Ridge is now. She told me they used to walk across the river as kids – this was before all the dams built in the 30s by TVA. She also told me about the Depression from their point of view. These people were farmers, so the Depression was really the opposite for them: they threw out truckloads of fruit and vegetables because there was no one to buy them or transport them. Granny told me of her memories of that: the trucks backing up to the lake and dumping their produce. So the country folk had surplus while city folk stood in bread lines. Isn’t that odd?

Gladys married a local boy named Dwight Harvey and they moved to Philadelphia TN. She bore two children, my uncle Jack (Jackie Allen, 1940) and my mother (Anita June, 1942). This was during wartime and my grandfather was called up at the very tail end of WWII, in 1944-45, when even men with families were being drafted. He was only gone a few months when he was killed in action in early 1945. My mother never really knew him.

With two children, the widowed Gladys eventually moved to the big city of Knoxville and ran into an old acquaintance, Jesse Gage. I don’t know when they got married, but it was fairly soon after the war ended. He’d been shot in the knee and was sent home. Jesse Gage was my grandmother’s Big Love. They never had children (he was sterile from Mumps, I think) but Jesse raised my mother and her brother as his own. He was my Papaw. He died of cancer in 1979. My grandmother never really got over it.

She sold her house and moved into a basement apartment with my uncle in the 80s and pretty much began her decline. She became less and less active and ended up being a shut in. It’s a shame; I remember my Granny being so very active when we were kids. She’d haul us around town in her beautiful 1961 Galaxie Starliner (white w/ red interior) – which is where I get my severe lust for Galaxies.

Sadly, she declined rather quickly in the last few years. She became unhinged from reality and very uncooperative with my uncle and my mother. They ended up putting her in a home a couple of years ago and that’s where she died. I disagree with this action, but I understand why they did it. Once in the home, she rapidly gave up all pretense of trying to hang on and simply let go. Her mind was gone in a few months and the rest of the time was basically waiting for her body to catch up. It is a sad ending for such a vibrant woman.

My Granny was good to me. She helped significantly with my college expenses and she was there for me when my parents were being crazy. I’m glad I never saw her in that home. My last memory of her was one of our visits. She was sitting on her couch, having a lucid conversation with us. She laughed. It was great. That’s the Granny I remember and I’m grateful for that.

RIP Gladys Irene Littleton Harvey Gage.

If you’d like to see the eulogy that my uncle gave and her NOTICE, please see her page.

Latest news from home

They only call me with bad news, the family. My dad called today to tell me that my Granny is on her way out. He sounded pretty shitty himself. The COPD is really bad when the pollution is high like it is now.

This is not a surprise. They stuck her in a home and she’s been losing her mind ever since. It’s taken a coupla years, but she’s finally succumbing to dementia and has been reduced to a raving lunatic. They tell me she rants nothing but curses and “Help Me!!”. It breaks my heart. Again I wonder why we can’t put humans out of their misery like we do our pets. It’s just not right.

After hearing this news, I’m doubly glad I did not choose to go see her a couple of weeks ago. I really do not want to lose my last memories of her at home, chatting with us, having a good day. That is the memory I want and that’s the memory I have. You may think me selfish for this, but I have to differ with you. Going to see her now would not impact her at all, it would only impact me in a negative way. I really don’t see the point in that. If she was lucid, that’s one thing, but she’s not. She hasn’t been for quite a while. So I stand by my decision to remember her as she was rather than as she is now.

Once she’s crossed over I’ll write a long post about my memories of Granny. Until then, it’s the waiting. I look forward to her crossing. It will end this horrible existence for her and she will be happy then. May the goddess bless her soul.

11 years of my blather!

Woohoo! Today is the 11th anniversary of Misangela.com. My first entry, entitled “Tales of a Mac Tech” started off this blog. I’ve done 1244 posts over the years and it’s been cathartic, funny, mean, angry, sarcastic, sad and every other emotion you can think of while posting here.

I’ve tried to write down anecdotes of growing up and notable times in my life and I hope I’ve done justice to some of the awesome stuff I’ve experienced.

Thank you, dear readers, all 20 of you, and I hope to be doing this in 11 more years. :)