International Women’s Day


In honour of this auspicious day, I offer you a judgmental rant. I am not sorry. Several things have set me off, so let’s start with the IWD stuff and then move to other issues that piss me off.

For this IWD, the Day Without a Woman movement is taking place. The idea is that women take the day off, don’t work, don’t buy anything, don’t cook, etc., and we all wear red. Now, while I agree that this is a lovely idea and I support it, I will still do the shit I need to do today. I’ve got obligations. I’ve got chores. And they will get done because I feel good today for the first time in a week, so I’ve got to carpe diem, yanno?

I’ve seen several women on FB (not MY friends, but comments on others’ posts) apologizing for not being able to take the day off, not shop, whatever. It is annoying that women feel obligated to APOLOGIZE for getting shit done just because it’s a “cause” day that asks you to not do anything. It’s just an idea! If you got shit to do, DO IT and stop apologizing. I think that the whole idea is to do what you can for the cause, but do NOT apologize for doing or NOT doing any damn thing on any damn day. RIGHT? ARGH.

Next, I’d like to slap the clueless bitches all over FB who are asking “What is all this wearing red about?”. Really? REALLY? You’re on FB every damn day and you’ve managed to miss International Women’s Day and the associated movement? You are an idiot and you need to have your woman card revoked. PAY ATTENTION for chrissakes!!

And finally, I’d like to air my feelings on women (partners of any gender) who fail at homemaking. You know the ones. The ones who “stay home with the children”, but do absolutely nothing. They claim to be busy with the children, but in reality, they sit on their asses all day playing games or riding around doing Ingress/Pokemon. They don’t clean the house, they don’t do laundry, they don’t cook, they literally do nothing. This makes me RAGEY. And YES, by the gods, I JUDGE THEM.

When I see a man complaining about all the stuff he has to do such as laundry, dry cleaning, getting shoes repaired, etc. and he’s got a woman at home, this makes me apoplectic with rage (you can change the gender on that to any configuration). WTF is wrong with someone who stays home every day and offers ZERO support for their spouse who works full time? How can you do that? How can you sit around in your own filth with laundry literally in mountains all over your house and do nothing? HOW?? It is the most selfish, mean, trifling bullshit I’ve ever heard.

I don’t care if you have 6 kids or NONE, if you are at home or work less than your partner, get OFF your lazy ass and KEEP HOUSE. My house ain’t spotless by any means, but by gods you don’t have to worry about ptomaine from my kitchen or be afraid to use the bathroom or see mountains of laundry coming out of the laundry room!! There is absolutely ZERO excuse for this! ZERO. Just because you’ve reproduced does not mean that you are no longer responsible for keeping your shit clean and straight. It’s a responsibility issue, not a time management issue.

I totally understand that some people are raised in filth and they honestly do NOT see it. Which is why it’s even sadder when they have kids, because they are raising another generation of filthy people. My grandmother and mother kept clean houses. I am naturally a clean person who likes ORDER and so does Nick. Keeping house for us is just a normal daily routine. ANYONE CAN LEARN TO DO THIS. Nick wasn’t raised in a neat clean house, but his sister in law (with whom he lived for a while) taught him to keep house. (Thanks Melinda!!) You can choose to be an adult. Try it, you might actually like it.

My brother, raised by the same clean mother that I was raised by, is a total PIG. He lives in filth with paths around all the shit in the floor. I don’t understand why it takes in some people but not in others, but I do think there is some choice involved. My brother chooses to live like a pig and takes zero responsibility for it. Part of this due to my father, who was raised in filth and does not believe in doing housework of any sort because that is the woman’s job – HELLO, 19fucking50 called and they want their bullshit back. My father never cleaned a dish, cooked a meal, washed a shirt, took out the trash or mowed the lawn. He is also a home builder and he never repaired SHIT around the house. He did absolutely nothing to keep the household running other than making money. Gee, I wonder why my mother burned out and finally said “FUCK IT!”? I saw this shit go down and I decided then that I’d NEVER put up with that kind of bullshit. You live here, you’ll do some chores, that’s IT. Same for brats: they should do household chores as soon as they are able. Teach them to clean up after themselves and it will be a lifetime habit. My mother did not do this because she has control issues. That likely contributes to my brother’s inability to adult.

A partnership is a partnership, be it marriage or whatever. This goes for all couples, no matter the gender. If you live with someone, you are obligated to help keep the place livable. YES working full time should mean that you have a far shorter list of things to do around the house, but it shouldn’t mean you do nothing. And vice versa, if you are the one staying home, then your list of household chores will be MUCH longer than the person working full time. Why is this so hard to understand? This is equitable. You don’t like it? Get a job and/or get a maid. Easy.

I absolutely do NOT take issue with doing most of the housework. I’m home, I should do it. And Nick has no issue if I ask him to clean the gnarly shower sometimes. Hell, he cleans it better than I do!! He also has no qualms about his short list of chores. It’s equitable.

So this is my Women’s Day rant. If your house is a filthy pigsty with laundry mountains, then how about you GROW A VAG and clean that shit UP? Woman up for chrissakes! This goes for DUDES who are stay at home, too. Do your part! It’s the nicest thing you can do for your partner. I know Nick appreciates the things I do. He tells me so. And don’t forget that, too: tell your partner how much you appreciate what they do. It matters.

Oh and Happy International Women’s Day. :P

Welcome to Dumbfuckistan!

Welcome to Dumbfuckistan (formerly the United States of America)! All brown people, please proceed to your left to the detention area. No, having a green card makes no difference, please go to detention. All white people please proceed to the Citizenship Police windows with your passport, ID and all social media accounts open.

Once you are cleared by the Citizenship Police, please deposit all compassion, intelligence, fact checking, common sense and patriotism in the designated receptacles. You will not need these things in Dumbfuckistan and furthermore, they are frowned upon.

Please proceed to the kiosks to pick up your gun and bible, along with a complimentary copies of “How to Properly Utilize Hate Speech and Alternative Facts”, and “How to Identify a Terrorist: It’s As Easy as Looking at Skin Colour and Clothing!”. Included is an essay by our esteemed President on the proper way to deal with females entitled “Bitches 101: Just Grab ‘Em!”.

Now that you are prepared to enter Dumbfuckistan, please exit through the gift shop ($50 minimum) where you will buy Presidential merchandise to make Dumbfuckistan great! (100% profits go to our esteemed President.)

Have a nice day!

Where We Are at the Start

of the Trumpster fire (1/20/17):

Gas $2.33
Dow 19,819
NASDAQ 5560.7
Unemployment 4.7%

I’ll just leave this here for comparison in four years.

This weekend will be a nationwide bender for America. Both winners and losers are gonna get to’ up from the flo’ up. And with that, I start my first drink. ;_;

Am I the Typical Gen Xer?

You know, in previous generations (lookin’ at YOU, Boomers), people generally got more and more conservative as they aged. But I feel that with us (Gen Xers), we’re getting more and more LIBERAL. Perhaps it’s because we got SCREWED out of the American Dream that our parents had…

I say this, but when I think about the people in E TN who I went to school with, it seems they are all Republican and hateful to EVERYONE who is not white and christian like they are… So maybe it’s just me?

But, no, not that either. I think much of how you age and how you feel about society and politics and all that is VERY dependent on WHERE you live and HOW you live.

I really think that getting away from the small town mentality is the key. No matter where you’re from, you CAN get the fuck out of there and make your own mind up about how things should be. Yes, I grew up in E TN with the rest of the hillbillies and it took me a LONG TIME to move past those ingrained attitudes. But I finally did. Being in a large city with people from literally everywhere gives you a much better perspective than people who live their whole lives in a 10 mile radius like my family.

I think that being in a decent sized city with lots of “other” kinds of people really will change your attitudes about them. When you eat their food, shop in their stores and learn how they live, your attitude will change. I don’t think I’d be having miso soup for breakfast most days if I lived in E TN. I don’t think I’d have a pantry full of Indian, Korean, Japanese, Chinese and Middle Eastern ingredients, either. Food is a powerful way to connect with a different culture. When you are not exposed to different foods and cultures, you’ll never appreciate them.

Fear is fostered when people are never around anyone different. Clearly, this country is full of fearful people. It’s the ones who live in small towns and never see anyone different than themselves. There is a book I’m reading right now that is SO appropriate for our current level of fear of foreigners in America right now. It’s called The Burgess Boys by Elizabeth Strout. Interesting (if slow) read dealing with the attitudes of a small town towards an influx of foreigners.

Anyway, back to the Gen X question. Most of my peers are not raging Republicans yet. I’m talking about the peers I have who are also city dwellers. Most of the people I allow on my FB are living in an urban environment rather than a small town one and they are generally of the same mindset as I, in that voting for Cheeto = voting for HATE. So I wonder if Gen X is split over the Cheeto? If so, in what ratio? Am I like the majority of my peers in thinking that Cheeto is a horrible POTUS? Or is the majority of Gen X (now 40-50) on the side of the Boomers?

I can’t find many articles about this that have non biased opinions, so instead, I found the NYT exit polls, which do seem to bear out what I’m thinking: that education, age and location are BIG factors. Click to see full page:

NYT Election 2016 Exit Polls

Location is a really BIG factor in the voting, which goes with how it felt to me. It felt like hillbillies rallied around the dude who stoked their fear and hatred of The Other. Gaslighting!! Turns out that Gen Xers are indeed divided pretty evenly Dem/Rep. The only ages that had a large margin of Democrat voting was 18-29. All the rest were within 10 points, which points to WHERE these people lived rather than which generation they were. Interesting.

So I guess I am sort of a typical Gen Xer – at least compared to others who live in an urban environment. It’s sad to me, however, that our generation has SO MANY conservatives. I think getting screwed out of the American Dream must have really ruined Gen Xers for giving a shit about others and about how this country is run. I know my brother is completely apathetic and feels completely beat down. Many of us do.

I just hope the bright eyed and bushy tailed optimism of the Millennials doesn’t get killed by crotchety Gen Xers telling them to STFU. I will admit that their constant fretting over which gender they should be is annoying, but hey, whatever. I try to just not say anything about it and let them fret. I do wish they’d vote MORE. But I have no idea how to convince them that it matters when the hillbillies (of all ages) just voted in a Cheeto. ? How to combat that?

I feel sorry for the Millennials, but hey, WE had our shit to deal with, too. Just about the time we got our shit together and got the career and tried for the dream of a home and all that shit, the government fucked us up the ass. We GET to be pissy about that. You young ‘uns can be pissy about student loans and no jobs, but WE got fucked, too. Just remember that.

And also remember that we had better music and bigger hair than you, too. :P

I think we can ALL AGREE that the fucking Boomers just need to fucking DIE already. If we can get rid of them, perhaps something might finally change for the better. As long as we can get the progressive Gen Xers to participate, that is. Again, no idea how to make that happen. Sigh. I fear for our Republic.

Comments are open. Tell me what YOU think, fellow Gen Xers. Do you feel typical? Why?

Let’s Get It Over With

This has been sitting in draft since July 2016. Now that this person has removed herself from my FB and I’ve purged all the haters, I’m posting this. Since Cheeto won the election, it’s even more important that people understand where I am. I am not giving passes. You voted for Trump? You are an asshole, period. And perhaps a bit mentally deficient. Don’t like that I think this? THEN MOVE ALONG. This attitude ain’t changing.

Nick says I shouldn’t post about our recent interaction with a Trump supporter in the wild. He’s probably right, but I gotta. This shit goes right into my disgust with where I grew up and I just can’t let it slide. I’m not one for giving passes to assholes and I guess I’m too old to start now.

I’ve posted a bunch of political crap on FB, like everyone else. It’s easy to repost or retweet stories on social media. I would think that anyone who even vaguely knows me would know that I am an Independent who gets ZERO representation in our two party system of government. Anyone who even vaguely knows me should also know that I don’t suffer fools and I’d rather be rid of you than put up with bullshit. Right? Right.

With that sorted, let us get into my post that will probably piss off some people who think they are immune to my short temper and aforementioned lack of fucks to give. Whatever. I’d rather OUT them and let them go their way than be friends with people who are so ignorant of the big wide world that they are afraid of anyone who is not JUST LIKE THEM. Furthermore, *I* am NOT like them, so what kind of shit do they think about ME? I got rid of my birthday twin because she felt “sorry” for me that I’m not a Turbo Christian like she is. I’m glad she told me. I don’t hate her, but we can’t be friends, and that’s fine. (I later find that OF COURSE, she is a Trump supporter. Big shock. Doubly glad I got rid of her.)

I am NOT like the people from E TN. Not even a little. We might be “friends” on FB, but we’re not friends IRL. I’d love to say that friendship doesn’t involve core values, but, sorry, it really does. You can’t be real friends with people who have different core values and being a racist with fascist leanings is FAR from my wheelhouse. Theocracy is also not in my wheelhouse. If that’s your groove, then we are not friends. It’s as simple as that.

First, I’d like to say that I’ve never been more grateful to live in a big city than I am right now. I’ve lived here in ATL longer than I was in Knoxville TN and it shows. It’s taken me decades to rid myself of the toxic attitudes of E TN and I’m glad to see them go. I can see CLEARLY how living in a small town, surrounded by people JUST LIKE YOU is a recipe for racism, religious fanaticism and warped attitudes about anyone who is NOT just like you.

I have lived in Dekalb County GA since 1988. As of the last census, Dekalb County is ~36% white and ~55% black with ~6% Asians and ~19% not speaking English at home. Compare that to Knox County TN: ~86% white, ~9% black with ~2% Asian and ~6% not speaking English at home. Or better, Anderson County TN: ~92% white, ~4% black with ~1.5% Asian and ~4% not speaking English at home. (Info about Knox & Anderson Counties TN and Dekalb County GA from census.gov.)

And these people in E TN are deathly afraid of anyone who is brown or wears a hijab. Why? Well, judging by the demographics, it’s because they never SEE anyone brown or in a hijab. But to hear them talk, you’d think that they were veritably SURROUNDED by these scary people. We were in a business meeting with an E TN person who thought it’d be a swell idea to bring up her love of Trump at the end of the meeting. WHY she thought that would be a great idea is beyond me. Up until that, the meeting had been pretty good. It was ruined in about 2 minutes. A couple of excerpts from my conversation with this sane, rich, white Christian woman from E TN who “passionately” supports Trump:

“We’ve got to get rid of the Muslims. They are out to get us [white Christians]!”
“Muslims are everywhere! They are ALL OVER Clinton [TN]!”
“If you give blacks an inch, well, you know who they’ll enslave!”
“Oh, E TN is SO full of blacks now! You wouldn’t believe it!”

ORLY? You are surrounded by blacks and Muslims, are ya? Sorry, but the demographics do NOT support your racist assertions (person lives in Anderson County, btw). And to top it off, this person said this OUT LOUD, in a public place!! In downtown ATLANTA. I was mortified. I’ve heard the same exact shit from my parents for years. When they can’t get something via their shitty insurance, it’s ALWAYS because the blacks are taking away all their benefits. ?? How does that even make sense?

Needless to say, I am very disappointed in this person, but sadly, not one bit surprised. I was expecting the E TN to come out eventually. It always does. I can do the job we were discussing, but unless she is willing to sign a contract with a hate speech clause, I don’t want to risk having to listen to hateful shit while I work with them. (NOPE, did not even discuss taking the gig.)

Some (Nick in particular) would say that I should cut them some slack – they just don’t understand because they live in a bubble!! Well, I say HELL NO to that. These people are just as capable of research and reading from various sources as anyone. These people have the goddam internet. They are educated and well to do. They CHOOSE to be racist, hateful people. THEY CHOOSE IT.

These people are living in a bubble of SAMENESS, for sure. They are surrounded by racists JUST LIKE THEM. All their friends listen to FOX News and Sean Hannity JUST LIKE THEM. All their friends attend a Christian church JUST LIKE THEM. It’s an echo chamber of hate, racism and fear of anyone who is not JUST LIKE THEM. The demographics bear this out.

THIS is why I hate E TN. It is majority white Christians who hate everyone who is not like them. I know only a handful of people who live there who are not Turbo Christians full of hate. I also love the hypocrisy of these hate mongers who openly shout how Christian they are, then turn around and spew racist bullshit in the same breath. The person I was talking to also noted that she didn’t “advertise” her Trump support. Gee, wonder why? Think it might OUT you as the racist douchebag that you are? (In a funny twist, she outed HERSELF on my FB feed before she slunk off and unfriended me. LOL)

I read a post by Jim Wright (Stonekettle.com) about how Trump has become the new litmus test for friends:

“And that’s what it’s come to in America. First thing. What do you think of that Trump guy? The answer to that question tells you everything you need to know about somebody and whether they’re worth bothering with.” – Jim Wright

Even the Trump supporter confirmed this during our conversation. She said “This election will break up families and friendships”. Yes it will, because with Trump, it’s all hate all the time and the rest of the world is NOT down with that. *I* am not down with that and I don’t want to be associated with people who ARE.

I know it’s just politics… But this time, I think it’s a lot more than “just” politics. This election is drawing lines between the Old Guard (white, rich, Christian men) and progressives who want change. I’m not a fan of Michael Moore, but this post is spot on: 5 Reasons Why Trump Will Win. I do think Trump will win in November because there are a lot more people who live in small homogenous white towns and/or who are sick of the status quo than there are progressives who wanted Bernie but have to vote for Hillary.

And sadly, we now have Cheeto PEOTUS who will be Cheeto in Chief on Friday (Jan 20 2017). May the gods have mercy on our souls. The hillbillies won and it’s gonna be a shit show. As for me, I’m getting the popcorn ready. I do not participate in healthcare scams, so ACA doesn’t matter to me in the least. I will feel sorry for all the people who do rely on it – UNLESS they voted Trump, then I hope they suffer greatly. I plan to register as Muslim when that bullshit starts, too. You get what you vote for, motherfuckers.